My Hi , my name is Adri. I have twins aged 6 and a baby almost 1 years old.
Ruvan , one one the twins has been diagnosed with Aspergers. He is also ADHD.
There seems to be little or no support in South Africa for parents of Aspergers kids. I decided to put this site up in the hope that other parents would come forward and we can share with one another and offer support.
|A BIT ABOUT RUVAN
Ruvan was born crying and healthy at 3.6 kg's being one a twin , I was not worried. But it never stopped. He never slept , and was always needy.
At 3 years old he was already walking around on the roof of the house. He used to sit in the tree at playschool and poo on the kids below , just for the fun of it. He was hectic from day one. Always busy , always in trouble and then the antisocial behaviour started creeping in.
He would fixate on his trains for hours on end. When told he could choose two Xmas prezzies , He would reply " I want TWO trains"
He would play alongside children , but not with them.
He would not engage in any fantasy play.
He would not be able to look me in the eyes when I talked to him and in ten seconds , it would be out the other ear.
Ruvan was always in trouble and often labeled naughty. Preschools didn't want him there. Many unfair comments were made about him and I learnt the art of Karate chopping teachers down to size. Not in the physical sense, of course. :-)
Ruvan is highly intelligent but unable to process verbal instructions because he forgets so quickly.
It's been a long , hard road.
Well , the School Act in this country is a joke. It clearly states that children with Special Needs should be catered for. HAHA
There is no such thing. They do not have the funds to employ people to help , so the Act is really just technical and most useless.
Remedial Schools ?
Here in Durban , there are few and far between. **** School in Durban is the only long term one I am aware of but it is a mix of very Autistic kids , right through to mildly Autistic like Ruvan. Which in my mind , doesn't do a child any good. They also take ADHD kids. Doesn't make sense.
It's an attitude of "Just chuck them in with the rest"
I have lots more to say , and will do so as I get time to write down all the info and things I have learnt.
Feel welcome to email me and we can look at starting a email list of support. Let nobody tell us it's an easy road.
Oh , yes...I still haven't mentioned the drugs issue. Oh well , another time for this meaty topic.
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